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Survival Guide At The In-Laws [CNY Edition]

24 Jan

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It’s one week till Chinese New Year, beside buying new clothes, a lot of new daughter-in-laws are going to spend the festive season with their in-laws soon. So, I have come out with a “survival guide at in-laws” for all of you for reference. *Wink Wink* Haha…

1. Bring presents for everyone.

Everyone loves to be remembered and appreciated and it doesn’t has to be something expensive or impressive. Bring some thoughtful presents for your parents-in-laws and your cute nephews or nieces to show them you care and miss them dearly.

2. Help on the house chores.

I know how much you hate ruining your expensive manicure. But helping on the house chores is part of your responsibility as a daughter-in-law. Honour your in-laws by offering your contribution to make the house looks neat and clean. Even better, you can help on the CNY decoration of the house and making it look great!

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3. Serve the dinner.

My mum always tell me this, if you can’t cook, make sure you are the one serving. The benefits of serving food are, you always get to serve the best part of the chicken or the fish to your favourite person and when there’s dish that you less fancy of, you can always serve it to someone else… Kekeke…

4. When someone asks about when you are going to have a baby?

You can just smile and tell them, We love children. There’s no need to announce to the world that you don’t want to have any kids yet or you are trying various ways to treat infertility.

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5. Speak fondly of your better half.

When you are with your husband’s family, it’s the right and wise way to speak fondly of him. Tell his family about what a good man he is and how he treats you and your family. Tell his relatives about his recent promotion and the great prospect he is having. It makes them feel so proud of him and consequently, he is happy. When husband is happy, you are happy.

6. Be nice to your sister(s)-in-law.

Due to the natural closeness between mother and daughter, your sister(s)-in-law becomes very influential to your mother-in-law. So if she doesn’t like you, you mother-in-law doesn’t like you. If she likes you, it’s almost definite that your mother-in-law likes you. So, in whatever that you do, remember to be nice to your sister-in-law!

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Champagne Princess Dress :: MysteryLand

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7. Show your thoughtfulness.

Accompany your in-laws to the Chinese New Year shopping, prepare new notes for them for the Ang Pow, buy their favouite cookies and help according to their needs. Nobody enjoy the company of selfish people, so be thoughtful and caring!

8. Spend time listening.

Everyone has a story to tell if you are willing to listen. Try to form a deeper relationship with your husband’s family by listening to them and acknowledge what they have to say. You never know you might learn something new, get inspired and develop a better relationship with them.

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9. Never complain.

Even if you feel uneasy/offended/criticized/left out/etc…, never ever, I repeat, NEVER EVER complain about your in-laws to your husband. It is very unwise to do so. Remember, family is family. There is this Chinese saying, Blood is thicker than water. Imagine you husband is a branch growing on a big tree. And this big tree and other branches represents the family. When you try to hurt the tree or chop of the branches from the tree, the branch feels hurt and will eventually die off when he left the tree. So, if you really wants to see a positive change in your relationship with your in-laws, water the tree with patient, kindness and love. And when the tree prospers, your branch prospers and so does you!

10. Do not “hide” in the room.

A lot of time I heard mothers-in-law complain about their daughter-in-law always “hide” in the room. Well, I know it is really awkward when you have nothing to do and don’t know what to say when you are at your in-laws place. It is completely normal that you just want to lock yourself in the room updating your facebook/instagram and watch your favourite drama. Most girls tend to stay in their own room to “avoid” unnecessary contact with their husbands’ families and thus prevent any conflicts or awkwardness… But it is not the way to improve relationship! Try to be present and get involved. See it as your little “Happiness Project” and work on it. I understand that sometimes you need to do things that you don’t enjoy, but have faith that it will eventually contributes to a greater happiness for yourself.

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Chinese New Year is the time to have reunion with family members and cherish the relationship and bonds between each other. If you just got married, it is normal that you are worry about getting along well with the in-laws. Always keep in mind that there’s no right way or wrong way in doing anything, the way your family does it might be different from his family. So what you need to do is to observe and embrace the differences.

I hope you find this survival guide useful and remember, love is the principal. When your love is overflowing, it blinds you from all the differences and conflicts.

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Whenever you are this Chinese New Year, I wish you a prosperous and happy new year. I hope all of you got to spend quality time with your family and loved ones.

Thank you so much for reading and Happy Chinese New Year!!

XOXO Eryn ❤

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婚姻的枷锁?{情系霍亨索伦桥}

17 Jan

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去年到巴黎旅行的时候,遇见了一对从南非来的夫妇。年近60的两人告诉我们,他们的孙子都快十岁了,但看起来就像热恋中的小情侣一样。我们一起坐在夜游塞纳河的玻璃船上,之间他们两甜蜜的自拍,相视微笑。巴黎夜里醉人而清爽空气沁人心脾,我心里不禁想像,究竟是怎样的爱情,能够经得起时间的考验。

大家都说,婚姻是爱情的坟墓。行过了浪漫的婚礼,两个互相珍爱的人开始了现实的生活。当生活围绕在最平庸的柴米油盐,亮丽的女孩不再是不食烟火,倜傥潇洒的男孩不再是意气风发…  日月岁深,斗转星移,每天日复一日的忙着生活中大大小小的琐事,难免爱情会渐渐的变淡,慢慢的变成一种习惯,一种责任,甚至在孩子的牵绊下委曲求全。我想,一旦进入婚姻,这是谁也逃避不了的命运。

K5 可是,我们依然见到许多结婚多年以后还是非常恩爱的夫妻,就像那对南非来的夫妇一样。那么,是什么能让爱情在婚姻里保鲜呢?这让我想起准备结婚前读过的一本书 [Fit To Be Tied]:答案就是不要放弃追求对方,和不断的改善自己。结婚了就能随便穿条短裤不化妆和老公出门吗?结了婚就停止了对太太的赞美吗?当初签署结婚证书的时候,可不是这样说的。

这就是为什么,即使再忙,也应该抽些时间去约会。这就是为什么,每次出差都应当记得带回一些惊喜的小礼物。即使是看一场电影,吃一顿饭还是要精心打扮,就像在热恋中一样。因为幸福不是偶然,爱情并不会在套上指环的瞬间成为永恒。爱情也需要持续的努力,好好的经营。所以,即使有了小孩,也不该松懈下来。不要等到哪一天,我们才赫然发现自己已经深陷爱情的坟墓中。

虽然前面的路很长,充满了未知的挑战,我仍然悄悄的盼望,当我年迈花甲的时候,我们还可以像那对夫妇一样,鹣鲽同群,把臂成双。

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把握住将爱情锁在婚姻里的重点,希望大家都能在婚姻的路上幸福美满,并在丰富多彩的家庭责任中,大大的成就自己。

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距离上一次写中文的博文已经是三个月的事了。真的很想多写一些啊~ 累就累在职业妈妈不容易,每星期就只能挤出那一点点时间来写一些自己喜欢写的文章。不知不觉,我已经结婚三年了。从拍拖,结婚,到生小孩,三年里也确实对人生有了新的体悟。感谢你们,我的读者们!谢谢你们一直都给我鼓励加油打气,让我可以继续努力的做着自己喜欢的事,完成我成为伟大作家的梦想!*做梦中*
呵呵… 如果你喜欢我的文章,记得留言让我知道~ 赞下去是最简单和直接的支持啦!

XOXO Eryn ❤

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Paris Is Always A Good Idea~

31 Dec

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Isn’t it wonderful to be able to stroll casually on the street of Paris?

It took me a long time to style this casual look *Ahem* Casual is always a challenge for me, I will always end up looking OTT with any casual apparels. And you wouldn’t believe that I am actually wearing a Hervé Léger inside! I styled it with with a white sweater, a pink cape coat and a pair of flats with black sock (to imitate wearing a pair of boots).

It’s always fun to be experimental!

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Cute Shutter Shade:: Euphoric

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Pardon me for the repeated images. They all look so nice so I just decided to chuck them all in. Hopefully it doesn’t bore you :P It was one fine afternoon where we basically have nothing on our agenda. We walked and walked and walked idly, allowing ourselves to got lost and enjoying every bits and pieces of this beautiful city. With his camera, Kelvin took many pictures of me, wandering in the wonderland. We joked around, laughed and make fun of each others…

These are the moments that I truly want to savour, as all the good times and fond memories are those will sustain you, when, inevitably, life is not so kind.

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It was so much fun taking all these pictures. I hope you enjoy it as much as we love making it :)

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Have a great day everyone and enjoy till the very last minute of 2013!

Thank you so much for reading. I wish all of you a wonderful and prosperous year ahead. And till then, see you NEXT YEAR!!

XOXO Eryn ❤

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She Has A Secret.

18 Dec

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I always love to write. It all started when I was 5 years old. One day my dad came home with a calendar diary given by the bank. He gave it to me and told me that I can write and draw in them. I was very happy. I only wrote my best ABCs in it, and I would cut out images from new papers and flyers and sticked in the diary. It became my first inspiration book full of sketches, beautiful images and my silly words. And I carry this habit of having a small diary or journal wherever I go, till today.

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Even though we live in an era of technology when people do everything with keypads and computers, I still pen down my thoughts and feelings on papers. I remember most pictures and images that I cut and paste in my little diary were all about beautiful sceneries in some unknown foreign countries, scenes from Disneys cartoon movies and of course, beautiful dresses in various colours and designs. I guess it is how I begin to dream and cultivate appreciation for beautiful clothes and constantly desire for adventures.

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I remember in our early dating days, Kelvin used to look into my eyes and told me that I am a very secretive woman. The more he comes into my life, the more secrets he thinks I have. He was like a adventurer, going into a mysterious world and look for the treasure chest. Just like most men, he finds women with secrets very interesting and attractive. And that’s why I think having some secret dreams and document it is very important. It preserve a part of oneself and although I look quiet and consistent, but few know how many women there are in me :)

photo 1 And today when I unwrapped this special present from my closest friend, I was so delighted to receive the perfect gift – a leather journal with a unique 2-pin roman numeric combination lock!

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In this journal, I’ll write all my secret dreams…

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But remember this, once exposed, a secret loses it’s power…

This Christmas, if you are still looking for something to put under the tree, you might consider this special gift from Euphoric :)

Good luck and thank you so much for reading!

XOXO Eryn ❤

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