8th of August is Kelvin’s birthday. This year I was planning to throw a surprise party for him. Just when I was drafting the plan and thinking of all the fun activities we gonna do, I come to realise the fact that most of his best friends are all over different places on this planet… Which means, there’s none of his friends here in JB. Then there’s this sudden surge of empathy from my heart towards him… He has got not much friends here, at least not much of those he would like to spend quality time with.
That night, we lie on bed and I was reading this to him.
1 Corinthians 7:17-24: Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised. Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God’s commands is what counts. Each one should remain in the situation which he or she was in when God called him. Were you a slave when you were called? Don’t let it trouble you– although if you can gain your freedom, do so. For he who was a slave when he was called by the Lord is the Lord’s freedman; similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ’s slave. You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men. Brothers, each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God called him to. (NIV)
Do you know why it was repeated 3 times? He shook his head. Because it is a very important message. It reminds us to retain our place in life. You may feel that we are deprived of quality time with friends, you may think that it would get better if we move out of town or country. You may think that we need better jobs or we should have more freedom to do whatever we wanna do. But God places us here for a reason. We are not here facing all the circumstances by chances. We are being CALLED. And when we seemingly find ourselves enslaved to a role in which we wish to be set free, Paul reminds us that we have been bought with a price and he tells us not to become enslaved to the world’s thinking. We can exercise our freedom in Christ in our assigned role whether it is an ideal situation or not. I touched his face and said, of course, filling a role we aren’t comfortable with is not always easy. But by the grace of God, we always have each other :)
Here’s his pre-BD celebration last year before our wedding.
This year on his birthday, I took him to a candle-lit dinner (as shown in the first picture of this post) and I am glad that he is pretty happy about it :) For all his dear friends (you know who you are), he misses all of you so dearly. So please, visit us in JB whenever you can… Keke… I thank God for everything He has provided us and Kelvin has been such a loving man who endures conflicting culture issues, hot weather and lack of time with friends and all with a big heart.
You have been a wonderful husband, son, brother, working partner and friend. I am so very happy to have you in my life. May God continue to bless us with strength and wisdom, to find freedom to live and to discover our God given role right where we are.
Happy Birthday Darling!