【女人悄悄话】关于家庭与事业
24 Apr
曾经有一段日子，我因为生产后坐月子的关系，无法工作。每天就只是吃饭喝汤、喂奶、照顾小孩。每每丈夫下班回家，我便会快快地来到他身边，听他说着他一天的工作。我的丈夫的工作内容相当有趣，很多时候会去很多不同的地方，接触很多不同的人。每次听他讲完，在他洗澡的时候，我便会坐在梳妆台前默默的想，他日子过得这么充实有意义，而我就只是待坐在家吃饭、喝汤、挤奶… 忽然觉得自己非常没有信心，也渐渐地开始变得不快乐…
这是我第一次对不用上班而感到恐惧。
我第一次觉得，女人拥有一份引以为傲的事业是多么可贵，多么有保障的一件事。
聪明闪耀女人的独立是先反映在经济上，她们有着自己喜爱的工作与事业。女人首先要属于自己，实现自己，善待自己，这样的女人才是真正有智慧的。所以一个善于运用知识，发挥自身所长，并努力实现梦想的女人，更能让男人着迷。
我想在经济上独立的女性，也更能得到男人的尊重。因为大家始终站在同一条线上，能一起往前走。而不是谁是谁的负担。
经济和精神双重独立是一种很高的境界，它需要很高素质的心态。聪明的女人之所以从里到外都透露着现代时尚女性的优雅，很多时候是因为她们在经济上有独立感，这种感觉能使她们的精神独立有相对坚实的根基。通过经济的独立，她们才能享受到成功的满足感。而这样的满足感能让她们变得优雅、自信、神采飞扬。
虽然说照顾丈夫、孩子和家，始终是女人的重心。“太太”和“妈妈”却只是女人丰富人生中的其中两个角色。一个女人能兼顾到家庭和事业，常保持经济和精神独立，便能处处散发魅力，以一种优雅的姿态和男人比肩而立。
“出得厅堂，进得厨房” 永远是女人追求的梦想，也是男人理想中的完美女性形象。所以我们更孜孜不倦的努力学习，让自己成为一个有能力和智慧，在家庭和事业之间找到平衡点的新时代女性。
曾经听过这么一句话：
认真努力的工作，为的就是当站在爱人的身边，不管他富甲一方，还是一无所有，我都可以张开手坦然拥抱他。他富有，我不用觉得自己高攀；他贫穷，我们也不至于落魄。
Catching A Train To Paris [Let’s Run Away]
28 AugWhen she met this man,
she knew it in her heart that she wanted to run away with him…
It was a cold breezy morning, when I put on my blue jacket, I still couldn’t believe that we were doing this together. We were catching a train to Paris.
Yes, just the two of us.
I remembered I was so sleepy and could hardly open my eyes to take a proper picture, the sky was still dark when we went on board. Everything is just so dreamy…
And when the first sun ray shined through the window, I opened my sleepy eyes and saw a cup of hot coffee and a chocolate bun he has ordered for me.
How comforting.
Being with him, sorts of make me feel like we are not getting any older when we have each other.
The train moved in a very fast speed.
The cabin was pretty empty that day.
It was drizzling out there.
However the skies were beautiful.
It was really quiet though.
He was holding my hand, telling me about the itinerary.
The world was so quiet, and my heart beats fast in great excitement.
I feel like we are running away.
(In a romantic sense of course… hehe…)
Then it’s time for some good breakfast.
You better feed yourself well before the adventure begins. He said.
And he attempted to learn some French.
Uttering broken sentence that sounded really perculiar.
Bonjour!
And here we were.
Paris
You know, I love the life we live.
Sometimes, you and me just need to get away.
To take some time to reunite.
Some time to fall in love again.
Some time to feel the warmth of the sun.
I wish I could live in this moment forever.
It doesn’t really matter where we are going.
My love, let’s run away with me.
XOXO Eryn
Lately… About Being A Wife…
24 Mar
Being a blogger means that I write and read a lot of articles, both online or offline. I enjoy reading. It also makes me think a lot. I cannot say it’s a good thing or bad thing. I just automatically switch to “thinking mode” when I read something that’s worth thinking about (or at least from my perspective).
Recently, something has been bothering me…
I have been reading quite a bit about marriage and love relationship that talks about how to be a good wife and maintain a stable loving marriage. Very often, those articles are talking about how wives can make a marriage work and how to better serve and love our spouse and spice up the relationships…
Which, are all good advises.
But, it makes me wonder, does the good marriage only depends on women? Do I need to learn how to cook, look beautiful and hot, keep track of his emotions and carefully hide away my true feelings, hurts and joys for safe-keeping, just to keep the marriage healthy?
It occurs to me that, very often women need to bear the burden of responsibilities to make a “good” marriage. Seriously, how often would you come across articles written by men that says “How to Be A Good Husband” or “8 Ways To Improve Your Marriage“?
Or maybe it’s our nature to be blamed. Women are generally more accommodating and all we want is to make our husbands happy.
Well, I don’t know…
Maybe it’s the hormone fluctuation from the pregnancy or I have been thinking too much. Man and woman, we are crafted equally to support a good healthy marriage. I do believe everyone’s formula to build a steady marriage would be different, and women shouldn’t be the party that is solely responsible for making the marriage works.
Mark 10:6-9
6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
And LOVE, should be the principal.
Thank you so much for reading and have a great week ahead!!
XOXO Eryn
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Sometimes I wish I could travel back in time. Have a secret rendezvous on a trip without anyone knowing it. Wearing my favourite strand of pearls, I check my look in the mirror a hundred times before running to the appointment, just to make sure I look perfect.
With tender steps and soft movements, I walk in great anticipation to the meeting. I started imagine the warmth, the smell and the lovely glass of champagne waiting in a tall crystal champagne flute, bubbling…
My heart thumps harder as I move from one floor to another. My hands turn cold and I think I am shaking a little. Both inside out…
In my purse, there is this little key that opens up the beautiful white wooden crafted door. The sun shines in through the glass window, bringing in light and warm. Almost there… my heart is filled with joys and fears.
Clocks forgot times, and that moment froze, in eternity. It left me in that particular time and space, with myself… walking one step closer to the secret rendezvous.
The charming chandelier is shining vaguely. The corridor is full of sweet fruity smell that reminds me of all the excitements and intensity of the pleasure.
And who knows, there might be a lovely expensive gift waiting for me in the room, glittering in sparkling glows… With a love poem attached to it.
Today, I am an elegant and dreamy woman, going to a special secret date in this charming old European hotel. There is no need to act, I feel exactly like that woman. Dreamy is the word to describe myself in these days.
Romantic love is an illusion…
I wish I never discover the truth… and indulge in the sweet emotions of love forever…
Thank you so much for reading.
Have a lovely day!
XOXO Eryn ❤
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