Being a blogger means that I write and read a lot of articles, both online or offline. I enjoy reading. It also makes me think a lot. I cannot say it’s a good thing or bad thing. I just automatically switch to “thinking mode” when I read something that’s worth thinking about (or at least from my perspective).
Recently, something has been bothering me…
I have been reading quite a bit about marriage and love relationship that talks about how to be a good wife and maintain a stable loving marriage. Very often, those articles are talking about how wives can make a marriage work and how to better serve and love our spouse and spice up the relationships…
Which, are all good advises.
But, it makes me wonder, does the good marriage only depends on women? Do I need to learn how to cook, look beautiful and hot, keep track of his emotions and carefully hide away my true feelings, hurts and joys for safe-keeping, just to keep the marriage healthy?
It occurs to me that, very often women need to bear the burden of responsibilities to make a “good” marriage. Seriously, how often would you come across articles written by men that says “How to Be A Good Husband” or “8 Ways To Improve Your Marriage“?
Or maybe it’s our nature to be blamed. Women are generally more accommodating and all we want is to make our husbands happy.
Well, I don’t know…
Maybe it’s the hormone fluctuation from the pregnancy or I have been thinking too much. Man and woman, we are crafted equally to support a good healthy marriage. I do believe everyone’s formula to build a steady marriage would be different, and women shouldn’t be the party that is solely responsible for making the marriage works.
6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
Thank you so much for reading and have a great week ahead!!
Ever seen a pregnant flapper girl?
Last weekend Kelvin took me out for a movie that I have been waiting for:
The Great Gatsby
I was so happy and had been counting down since the start of the week and planning what to wear to the movie date. On the morning of the date, I was telling him how much I look forward to spend some romantic time with him. It may sound funny to many, but I still feel excited whenever Kelvin is taking me out for a date, just like how we first fell in love. I will dress up a little, spray on my favourite perfume and put on jewellery that was given by him. I guess it’s my way of showing appreciation to his love. Even though we have been married for almost 2 years and I am 37 weeks pregnant now, I still find it thrilling to look good for him.
This is probably the best I can do with my growing body.
I do believe that physical attraction is important to keep the relationship alive. Very often married couples become comfortable with each other and do not care about their physical appearance anymore. I always remind myself that Kelvin did not sign up for this. He deserves the very best of me.
Attitude is as important as the attire. I would smile and speak positively about him, telling him how much I appreciate him planning the date and all that he’s done to cheer me up during the pregnancy.
Although it’s just a movie date, but it really meant a lot to me…
“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever” ~ Nicholas Sparks
Thank you so much for reading 🙂
XOXO Eryn ❤
As the day approaching, we are counting down with a happy heart and busy preparing for the arrival. It really feels like the moment before the drop on a roller coaster! It’s all about excitement, joy, happiness, a bit of fear and unknowns! Hopefully, this will not be the last time you see us posing happily for a picture 🙂
Thank you for reading and your support throughout the journey, I couldn’t express how thankful I am to have all of you…
Have a blessed day~
XOXO Eryn ❤